Like Mother, Like Daughter
zaterdag, februari 6th, 2010|
IMDB rating: 4.70 Plot: When a successful business woman (Michelle Stafford)finds out her college-aged daughter (Dani Kind) has gone missing, she elicits help from her friend and daughter’s college professor (Billy Moses) unaware that she is seeking assistance from the very man who kidnapped her. |
Actors: Babin Devin,Bramucci Rick,Huard Claude,Maclaren John,Moses William R.,O’Regan James,Slacke Mark,Drama,Mystery,
How can I tell my mother that I am sexually active?
I am nineteen years old and started having sex when I was 17 (Just about three months from turning 18). Normally I would keep this to myself but I feel that I should go to a gynochologist to test for STDs and to just generally make sure everything is O.K.. I have shown no signs or symptoms of an STD and I am having no problems or pains I just want to be safe and cover all my bases. However planned parenthood would not give me a pap smear because they said I was not old enough (wanted 21) and have not been sexually active long enough (wanted 3 years). The woman told me it was just against their policy which I fiound to be absurd.
So my problem is that I am still on my parent’s medical insurance. I moved out over a year ago but since I could not afford insurance (I work and am a full time student) I stayed on my parents plan. I need to tell my mother that I am sexually active so I can see a gynochologist for a routine examination. My mom and I have never had that "friend" bond. I love her very much but our relationship is strictly mother-daughter and I dont feel comfortable sharing things of this nature with her. I would never even tell her I found a guy attractive or anything.
I would appreciate any input in how I can tell her without wanting to die of embarassment.
If you go to college then they should be able to test for STDs at the clinic free of charge.
If not, then just go to any clinic and ask for a test.
You don’t have to tell your mother anything…just ask for all the insurance info so you can give it to the people at the clinic and if she asks just say you are getting a checkup or something.
basis | Feb 05, 2010
the most important thing to do is talk to her when she is free and is relaxed. what you can do is talk to a counselor before so that he can suggest how to go about telling about your sex life to your parents. also read these links below they may help you to tackle this issue.
http://www.helium.com/items/219739-paren ts-adjusting-to-realizing-your-teen-is-s exually-active
http://www.helium.com/items/1386748-pare nts-adjusting-to-realizing-your-teen-is- sexually-active
i will strongly recommend that you do it on a top priority basis, so that you can get your medical check ups done. also in the mean time avoid any sexual encounter so that you do not catch an infection.
best of luck.
gayatri | Feb 05, 2010
HPV is NOT the only thing that is tested from a pap smear! Regular pap smears every 2 years from when you become sexually active are medically advised. As I live in Australia I’m uncertain of whether your parents insurance company will notify them of your visit to the gynaecologist ? If they won’t, and I can’t see why they would (I would think that would constitute an invasion of privacy) then why would you even need to speak to your mom about it?
If you insist that you absolutely need to discuss it with her, then can I suggest if you get embarrassed by such things, the direct approach is best. Do it like a band aide, tell her quickly and get it over with. Just say something like, mom I want to see a gynaecologist for a general check up to make sure everything is ok down there, for my sexual health and health in general; so if you see something about that on the insurance, that’s what it’s all about.
That way you’ve told her without actually telling her. You’ve also been able to explain what is going on with the gynaecologist
I’ve included a link about the HVP to clear up misconceptions
Dr. TJ | Feb 05, 2010
It is perfectly normal for you to schedule a gynecological exam. Just because you are on your parents insurance the doctor can’t tell your parents about your medical records. Go and make the appointment and relax. While you are there, get fitted for an IUD which is foolproof birth control that you don’t need to remember to take
marriagecoach1 | Feb 05, 2010
well first with getting tested you can go under your parents insurence and the doctor cant say anything to your parents about what when on between you two. this happened to me when i had my miscarriage and under law they cant say anything even if you were under age…
but i will say the best thing to do is do a sit down with your mom and just tell her you want to get checked. she will most likly like that your being responsable in getting checked in the first place.
TAnn | Feb 05, 2010
You have two options here.
Option A. Be upfront and honest about it. Tell your mother that you need the insurance information so you can schedule an appointment with a gynecologist to get a pap smear. You should have had a pap smear before now and a trip to the gynecologist well before now, but since you haven’t, now is the time, so just tell your mother that you need to go and get checked out. Also, you should get on some form of birth control, but not an IUD. An IUD is a five year form of birth control, and it is inserted into your uterus. It’s also a painful procedure. The pill, patch or ring should be perfectly sufficient for a young woman your age. But, back on topic, as far as your mother is concerned, if you want to tell her, just say, ‘Mom, I’m 19. I am sexually active. I need to make an appointment with a doctor to make sure I’m staying healthy.’ Something along those lines.
Option B. Tell your mother that you are going to the doctor and need the insurance information but don’t tell her what you are going to the doctor for or skirt the question when she asks. This isn’t the best option, because in the end, you will be lying to her. Go with Option A. Just tell her. But if you aren’t comfortable with it, you can just say, ‘Mom, I need the insurance info so I can go to the doctor. I need to have a test done. Don’t worry, it’s nothing serious, just a check up.’
Unless your mother is incredibly uptight about sex, she should be okay with the fact that you are no longer a virgin. You’re not a young kid, you’re 19. You’re ahead of most girls your age. And frankly you should have had these tests done a long time ago. My doctor started doing them well before I had sex, as soon as I got my first period. But that just depends on your doctor I guess.
Just tell her, even if you aren’t close she shouldn’t freak out too much. It’s better that you tell her than she find out later.
dein_85 | Feb 05, 2010
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